“He never noticed that he didn’t get a reply.”
                -Moses Ose Utomi, The Truth of the Aleke, p. 37

                Have you ever talked with someone who doesn’t seem to notice your reply? Who nods, maybe, or doesn’t, and then goes straight back to what they want to say? Have you ever felt a whisper and wondered if you’re doing something like that—if you’re saying without noticing what else is said? I have. Both ways.
                Utomi’s line comes in a moment when his main character, Osi, has written and sent an important letter. And then has gotten caught up in all the other busy, important things he has to do, so he doesn’t notice that the person he wrote to never writes back. I read this and had to sit for a while. Quiet. Whirling. It shakes my ideas of writing and reading. Because the hope is that we’re communicating, yes? That we’re saying and hearing? But how much of my typing away at my keyboard is making space for what I can notice from you (and you, and you)? And how much is leading me back to my own tck tck tcking?
                I mistrust writing. Love it, too, and mistrust it. And I want in it a kind of listening. Which means I love listening practices more than I love writing practices. Which means I’m off, because last night I flew across the country to visit family, and now I want what I hear (my partner and my mom chatting near me) so much more than anything I might say.